We pursue relationships with people who we feel match our own level of attractiveness. Simply put, pretty people are more likely to date pretty people and ugly people...well, you get it. Everyone wants to feel evenly matched because it brings a sense of security and equality.
In relationships, girls want to feel safe and pretty, and boys want to feel strong and brave. When he tries to make her feel safe and pretty, and she tries to make him feel strong and brave, the relationship goes much smoother. You can do this through compliments or listening to their concerns and responding to their needs appropriately, or a myriad of other ways. Get creative.
When you are in a relationship, be prepared to temporarily lose some friends. Maybe this is only how it works for girls, but when she gets a boyfriend, we kind of back off and let her be with him. And we go do our own thing. Generally. Unless you're that annoying girl who always wants to be the third wheel for some unexplainable reason. But that aside, if you get dumped or need girl time, we will be there in a heartbeat!
I mentioned this the other day, but in relationships between men and women, the guys will do the emotional part to get the physical, and the girls will do the physical to get the emotional. Do each other a favor and engage in both parts - then both parties are happy. Even if you don't want to, just consider it like a compromise. And that's what relationships are about, right? Giving selflessly and helping each other to be happy?
I promised to keep this post light, so that is all for right now. Coming up next...? What do you do when your roommate has an eating disorder?
This post's title came from this song:
As Time Goes By (as sung by Barbara Streisand)
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